Loss is a part of life and living fully... and throughout October, The Things We Lose, a public art project that allows strangers from all walks of life to reconnect and make peace with a long lost item or person is playing on 292 subway platform monitors in 63 subway stations. A series of 20, 30-second videos created by Toronto artists: John Loerchner and Laura Mendes for Pattison Onestop network, these "Lost & Found" video clips give a voice to stories we often keep quietly within, in our private efforts to embrace happy memories, loss, hope, peace, and perhaps even the courage to let go... See the short trailer below...
Just taking some time out to watch a few of these video clips while waiting on the subway this month, made me think of my good friend and work buddy Debbie who we lost eight years ago to cancer. I learned so much from her during those years when we worked closely together with students. And for some canny reason, whenever I may be about to 'bite off' more than I may be able to possibly 'chew', and perhaps overextend myself, she quickly comes to mind and gently slaps me into remembering to be kind and loving to myself too. Do you have a friend like that? We all need one to live joyfully and blissfully. I believe it!
Working with Debbie, much was reinforced about the working world... three very significant standouts...
... the most beautiful attribute is to be passionate about people, helping them in some way to make it to the next day and through their own personal growth and development. This quote always reminds me of Debbie--- "There is nothing more truly artistic than to love people." -Vincent Van Gogh
... the importance of pacing yourself and taking on only as much as you can handle that still allows for a happy work, family life, and quiet time balance. This is so critical for women in today's world working in senior and management positions where adequate staffing often no longer exists, or one solid, consistent worker pulling the weight of two on any given day of the week!?! We both had management and chair positions in our earlier and younger working years, with much support and gracious merit, and being able to step away from the present day, constantly on the go, 24/7 rat-race to embrace an independent, self-contained work life was a blessing that we now cherished each and every day, to enjoy for starters-- a relaxed and healthy lunch out in the beautiful, sunny outdoors... I can still see Debbie taking in all that sunshine and laughing!
... pay close attention to your work environment--- your working surroundings should be peaceful, organized, and cheerful with staff who get along with each other and work well together, especially during more hectic times of the year, month, and or day. Conflicts are also a part of any type of relationship, including that working relationship, and it's vital to establish a few agreed upon ground rules for both senior to senior working relationships, and senior to junior working relationships. If for some reason you find yourself in a tense, cold, and consistently awkward set-up with the nuances of any kind of reverse psycho-babble, before getting a 'case of the vapors'... pack your bags and run fast... because there is better out there, and you are very deserving of a balanced, and happy working life too.
God never created us to be frazzled, overworked, and chronically-medicated individuals... at any point in our lives.