How are you navigating life these days? Because we all have our little chips and bruises and worries and disappointments (in addition to greater wellness), and can still find our calm balance during our life journey, to kick off our month of March (hello Spring Refresh), I'm sharing 5 ways to everyday calm for wherever you are at to bring more happiness, peace and wholesome joys into everyday living. We all go through stress and strife-- it's what makes our bounties that more bountiful-- overcoming little and larger obstacles, giving us that positive boost, elevating our thoughts, and being able to shine and share that experience and blessing with each other. I hope you will enjoy this 5 part series for more everyday calm, and use it to create a step by step plan that will work for you and your family...
The world has become quite an overly busy and noisy one, and with not being able to even near-predict what could possibly erupt next or evolve on a day to day basis, I find myself more than average and intently invested in setting calming rituals and boundaries, and sticking with a process that works for me and my family (who I also encourage to set their own necessary boundaries), for our own individual and collective optimal growth and development (it never ends folks), and-- to be able to continue doing the work that we do to support a healthier us (society). Now that was a long-winded sentence, but very much in alignment with our faster pace (and not necessarily for the better) universe at large. What are some of the things you do on a daily or weekly or even monthly basis to hone in on the calm, creating your own restorative movement of sorts? It's something to seriously think about. For simple starters, here are a few that stand out (and always keep our glasses half full), regardless of our pay grade... :)
We can never overestimate this. Our downtime to engage in restful and rejuvenating activities (doodling, colouring, baking, drawing, arts and crafts, designing, sports, yoga, swimming (indoors/ out) reading, music listening, writing, creating and even making ice cream (our hobbies)) creates our needed internal relaxation for our bodies to naturally get to work and take care of any needed fixes and healing on the inside. Our bodies have been created with its own internal scavenger mechanisms to scout out budding and larger neglected problems while we rest. Now that's something to celebrate as our bodies have the capacity to both alert and heal us of inner and outer manifestations before they become a big deal, requiring all sorts of invasive therapies.
Here are a few early (and noticeable) signs that create an alert factor for assessing where we are at and revamping our routine:
... irritability (no one will want to approach you anytime soon). #so-sad
... decreased focus and concentration while at work and even away from work
... decreased libido/ lack of interest in intimate playtime (how can that be?)
... a daily desire/ craving for empty carbs (chips, cookies, donuts...)
... split revolving door moods (laughter one minute and sobbing the next)
... lethargy and loss of vitality for life
... fogginess (frequent memory lapses)
An abundance has been said and published about the importance of our 12 midnight to 4 a.m. sleep window, and especially for us (over 45) women long done with college, university studies, young children, and heavier 24/7 administrative workaholic years, these are our days to truly cash in on a great(er) work-life balance. Being a traditionalist like my mom and grams when it comes to our most intimate relationship and private home life, I still strongly believe in the husband being the head of the household and managing the finances to a greater extent, and wives tending more to the nurturing routines of home and taking care of the children, with maybe light work outside of the home once the kids have started kindergarten. I've never been into the 50-50 modern day movement, but realize this is the choice many women choose today for whatever reason. If that's what works best for you, then so be it. The same also holds true however for our younger women and men-- regardless of what's going on in your life. It's important to make your preferred body-works-best bedtime and sleep hours a priority. Sure these times may vary based on new work schedules, a new baby, and other developments in your life, but by seeking out ways to create more rest time that embraces that 12 - 4 a.m. in bed, eyes closed sleeping time within your 7, 8, or 9 overnight sleep hours, we maximize on maintaining our physical and mental strength, and ultimate potential.
A few ways we can support this better habit (and as often as we can):
... Record longer loved series for weekend or mid-week off-the-clock enjoyment.
... Create easier work days meal prepping strategies (leftovers + lighter eats).
... Switch off and alternate overnight baby duties with our hubbies.
... Invest in hired childcare and house cleaning help.
... Say "No" to more than one during-the-work-week happy hour invite.
... Indulge in a warm to hot shower/ bath an hour before bedtime.
... Bonus (and my fav): Tell/ read each other a sweet bedtime story. :)
Our good and better health remains priceless. And especially in these accelerated times where many often feel obligated to do this and to do that, to go here and to go there--- the mounting stress of pleasing everyone and forgetting to take care of ourselves can take its toll on our mental and physical reserves. It continues to be a great idea to always check in with ourselves whenever that lack of motivation strikes and we feel that something is 'off', and to take the time to invest in some good old-fashioned and honest soul-searching.
Tomorrow we'll hop into Parts II and III of this 5 Ways to Everyday Calm series... and thank you for your support.